Apparently, if you’re a “big kid”, then in any altercation, YOU are the bully.
I knew that. I grew up with that archaic and stupid bias. After all, we’ve all seen the movies, the cartoons, the sitcoms that showed us that bullying was one kid stealing another SMALLER kid’s lunch money. That’s what bullying is right?
At Ambrosini Elementary School, they have a “no tolerance” policy. You hit another kid, you’re going home. Period. Guess what THAT’S done. Now, the kids who would maybe make other smaller kids nervous are the target of vicious and ugly torment. Why? Because the school authorities have robbed the bigger or older kid of any power. Even raising his fists in a threatening manner is trounced on.
But call another kid fat? Or stupid? Or Retard? Or faggot? Well, that’s just teasing, right? Walk away from it. Easy. Right?
Please. Though I’m sure the cliche of a big kid pounding a little kid for his lunch money still occurs, the kind of bullying I’ve witnessed AND experienced isn’t like that at all.
It’s like you’re meat and they’re piranhas. It’s a kid that smaller and meaner who tries to get the other kid to explode, lose it and get him in trouble. That’s what I’ve seen.
But the research isn’t there. Has ANYONE who has all those letters after their name ever experienced bullying? Or listened to the kids who have been bullied?
You know what ALL the victims of bullying have in common? All of them, big or small, black or white, male or female? I’ll tell you. They’re “different”. They don’t “fit”. They’re smarter, or bigger, or weirder, or quieter. You can’t pigeon hole them, stuff them into a cookie cutter box. They are uniquely themselves.
And bullies are people who hate “different”. They’re bigots, though not obvious ones. They don’t think anyone who is uniquely themselves should feel good about themselves. Conform!!!!! That’s what they want. Comform. Submit. Go along with the crowd. They’re the Stepford Children demanding perfection from their classmates.
They’re the fucking Borg.
So, I’m declaring war. Ambrosini, Toddy and the other schools will be hearing from me. I will be a non-conformist voice crying in the wilderness. I will fight, bitch, call, make copies and write emails.
I will not let them assimilate my children. The Children of the Corn won’t survive too long around here. Be prepared, School Board. Here I come.
Oh, here’s a link to one of the most heinous sites of biased information. I especially like their depiction of a bully as “hot tempered” and “doesn’t follow the rules”. (Do I hear “Zeig Heils”?)
What’s your take? Do you buy the Eyes On Bullying definitions? What do you think?