1. The story is connected to both “Menage on 34th St” by Emily Ryan Davis and “Temptation To Submit” by me.
2. Collaborating with Emily Ryan Davis was awesome!
3. Originally, the story was going to be a Christmas themed book.
4. Emily’s inspiration was a story she saw on Guerrilla bondage http://www.citypaper.com/search/bcp-cms-1-1261828-migrated-story-cp-20120125-featu-20120125,0,5004352.story (and here’s some pictures http://photos.citypaper.com/index.php/baltimore-guerrilla-suspension-crew/#1)
5. We decided to save the Guerilla Bondage (Noah’s specialty) until the next book
6. We are doing another book featuring Noah, Ty and Tasha.
7. Ty is a photographer
8. Noah is also an artist
9. Tasha is a nurse fresh out of school
10. She’s also fresh out of submissive training
One of the best things about being an author is that sometimes I get to read books before they’re officially released. Being part of the “Mastered” box set with Joey W. Hill, I got to read “The Scientific Method” before it is out. (You can preorder it HERE if you haven’t already.)
Lord Brian and Debra have been recurring characters in Joey Hill’s Vampire series and they’ve always seemed like the perfect couple. This story reveals how complicated relationships can be.
The plot itself is a great one and I hope you’ll read it for the details. As usual, Joey Hill gets to the heart of something that I struggle with-that I think a lot of women struggle with.
Take away the paranormal trappings of the story, and there’s a devastating truth buried inside. I am a submissive to the core, my instinct in any relationship is to give. In a healthy relationship, that instinct is reciprocated in a unique way-a Dominant/submissive way. But sometimes (even in healthy relationships) there are times when one partner is withdrawn, unavailable, thoughtless. And it can perpetuate itself. It can start with a hurtful remark whether shouted in the heat of the moment or thrown out carelessly that grows into a wall between two people who suddenly wake up to a divide they have no idea how to scale.
How often have we heard couples heading for divorce saying they “grew apart”? This story nails the heart of the problem with gut wrenching accuracy. Debra feels as if she “doesn’t matter” and for a submissive, that’s fatal. Seriously fucking fatal. And I speak from painful experience. For Brian, he’s comfortable in his oblivious world, where Debra responds to him sexually and never complains. Though he has access to her thoughts, he doesn’t listen.
I sense a metaphor there, Ms. Hill.
The emotions that roll through Debra-the despair, the hurt-are feelings I’m familiar with and I think a lot of women are. We KNOW who we marry. I KNOW that the Redneck is a workaholic with family issues. I KNOW that his first marriage left damage that might come out in ugly ways. I KNOW all that. And yet, I can’t reconcile the two thoughts-he loves me and he hurts me. Of course, with Lord Brian, he CAN’T admit that he loves Debra. For a vampire, it’s a weakness that’s punished. And in a human male world, softer emotions are viewed as weak. Another metaphor?
But the one thing that I related to most in Debra was the way Lord Brian just…accepted her gift of submission and her hard work as if it was completely natural. Instead of viewing it as special and beautiful-something to be cherished-he avoided any deeper emotions.
One of the things I love about the world Joey Hill creates is that her vampires can read their servants minds. Whenever I’m asked what superpower I’d want, that’s the one I long for-the ability to know EXACTLY what the fuck is going on in someone’s head. But though Brian has that ability, he doesn’t use it to enhance intimacy or learn more about the woman he owns. In my opinion, another metaphor. How often do we waste time-precious time we have so little of-arguing about stupid shit? Talking about things that don’t matter and avoiding the important things?
So once again, Joey Hill brings it all out in the open and dissects it in the most amazing way. One thing I always get from one of Joey Hill’s books is CONNECTION! That’s what people want-to touch each other on a deeper level. I relate to Debra because she longs for MORE. Not in a selfish, grasping way. She wants MORE CONNECTION to the person she loves. She wants to feel like she matters TO HIM.
It’s heartbreaking to read those feelings on the page, but the progression of Lord Brian’s awakening to his servant’s feelings and his own is worth experiencing.
GO GET THIS BOOK!
And thanks again, Joey. Ya know. For making me cry.
I didn’t post last week due to being at Camp Makualla with 13 Boy Scouts. Here’s thirteen pics from that trip.
I remember the first time I realized that I was kinky. I was reading a romance novel and discovered that the part that turned me on was probably NOT the one the writer intended to make hot. The scene was almost entirely non-consensual and involved restraints. (Johanna Lindsey’s “Prisoner of My Desire“) I stayed in the closet and never expressed my desires for someone to pull my hair, tie me up or take control. I think my repressed desires played a role in the failure of my first marriage but there were most definitely other factors involved.
Then, I met my current husband.
He is a Dominant with a capital D though he doesn’t wear leather and he’s never used a cat-o’-nine tails. He dominates through other means, punishing in various wicked ways that may not look very kinky outside the bedroom. The fact is that he is a sexual Dominant and keeps all his kink behind the bedroom door. We’re not members of a community together (though I joined FetLife with his permission) and we don’t do Munches or Gatherings. He has, as my Dominant, been firm about my interactions in kink communities, not because he’s afraid I’ll stray, but because he’s very possessive of what he considers his. We’ve discussed “sharing” and decided it’s not for us.
So, with all that background, does that make us part of the “Lifestyle”? Does that mean we can speak about Dominance and subnmission even though we practice our kink behind the bedroom door? I think so. I’ve gravitated toward writing BDSM romance because I love to read it and I love to do it.
Mostly, I’d like to point out that the BDSM community is even larger than some people might think. There are a ton of us who practice our form of kink-whether it be role playing fantasies, Dominance/submission, or whatever. We are, perhaps, more private about our sexual lives, but anyone who knows me and my husband would spot the dynamic between us in a heartbeat. It permeates every aspect of our lives. That’s us. There’s tons of people who don’t reveal the true nature of their kinky connection at all.
I once knew a friend who I would have categorized as “normal” or “equal” in her sexual dealings with her husband. But once I’d started to research more and talked about what I write more, I discovered that she liked to tie the love of her life to the bed post and whip him with a belt.
It opened my eyes. If you’re anything like me, you read about BDSM clubs and Dominants who train submissives and all those wonderful juicy stories that get my blood flowing in all the right directions. But it’s so much more than that. It’s the twisted key that finds the right lock and the results is doors that are flung open wide revealing new dimensions and new landscapes.
Joey W. Hill had a quote in her latest book that I’ll steal to make my point. It’s by Marcel Proust.
“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.”
Wherever your voyage is taking you, I hope that you find “new eyes” to see the possibilities, to find the connection no matter what your secret desires might be. The one thing I’ve learned most of all is that no matter where my journey takes me, I am never alone. There are always those who have gone before me, who know how I feel, who have been where I’ve been. That knowledge has helped me in those times I felt I didn’t belong or I was too weird, too oddball, too different.
I’m giving away a copy of my latest release “Declaration To Submit”. I’ll pick a random winner on July 13 from anyone who comments and answers this question:
What’s your favorite kinky book and how did it impact you?
When Nell signed her employee agreement, she was fascinated by the fraternization clause that opened a door to her fantasies that she couldn’t shut. In a moment of weakness, she demands clarification and finds herself under contractual obligation to her new boss, Mark Conners.
Mark has wanted Nell Armstrong as much as he wanted to takeover the company she worked for. Once he acquired her place of employment, he planned to charm her into a kinky partnership that would satisfy them both. But she dropped to her knees and he accepted her declaration to submit. Things get serious and their fragile trust in each other is tested as they face a company problem that is deeper than either of them could imagine. Mark must find a way to forgive those in his past to have a future with the woman he’s grown to love.
or go to BDSM BLOG HOP HERE
Coming soon is the box set “Mastered” featuring ten FANTASTIC authors!!!! I mean, look at the line up!!!
Portia De Costa
Joey W. Hill
Carrie Ann Ryan
and Emily Ryan-Davis with ME!!!
You can PREORDER IT HERE!
Here’s our contribution:
In knots over love
After years of searching, Tasha Sears finally finds the Master of her heart …on his knees in front of intimidatingly sexy bondage enthusiast Noah Dreyfuss. As sparks flare between the three, Noah’s ropes will either bind them together or pull them apart.